All Lessons

A year ago, I was in no way ready to write about this—and definitely not ready to put it out there. But for me, healing often means talking about something. It means looking back after the dust has settled and finding meaning in an experience that once felt impossible to make sense of. Nobody can really tell you what giving birth is going to be like because nobody knows what it will be like for you.

Because it suggests something uncomfortable: Anger is not always uncontrollable. Sometimes anger is a performance. A strategy. A form of intimidation. A way of forcing another person to feel the heat that is burning inside of us.

I used to judge Christians. And now that I’m a Christian, I have to be careful not to judge people who don’t believe. It’s a little like ex-smokers becoming the harshest critics of smokers — when really, they should understand the struggle better than anyone. This has caused me to reflect deeply on how differently people see the world.

Have you ever felt trapped in a life you once prayed for? Recently, I’ve been watching videos about the life of Michael Jackson. It’s a bit of an odd obsession—one I know will eventually pass. But like most things we feel drawn to, there’s usually a reason we want to understand them more deeply.

“When You Married the Wrong Person.” Naturally, I clicked it. One of the first things the woman said was: “You probably wonder from time to time whether or not you married the wrong person—and the truth is, you probably did.”

At a time when I thought I’d be in awe of life, I found myself doubting everything—even my faith in God. It was a heavy season. The rage. The tears. The numbness. The resentment. I kept asking myself, When do I get to the other side of this?

The process of finding a wedding dress felt almost identical to the process of choosing a partner. Both ask the same question: What truly fits you—not just on the surface, but in a lasting way?

So why does missing out feel dangerous? Painful? Like a threat? Because fear is tied to belief. If we believe we want something other than what we currently have, we create tension. And that tension often shows up as fear. The good news? Beliefs can be challenged. They can even be changed entirely.

So instead of giving you a checklist to diagnose whether someone is secretly a psychopath, here’s something else to consider: Six questions to help you decode the “red flags” you’re seeing.

I left the house by myself for the first time to take a drive a week after giving birth to my son. This was the first step I took towards recovery. While I was driving I was thinking to myself - "Is this really my life now?"

I read all of the classic books you could read about self-help, but one book in particular that stuck in my memory was a book called “How to Get What You Want, and Want What You Have” by John Gray. He also wrote the famous book “Men are from Mars, and Women are From Venus.” John Gray predominately teaches men and women about relationships. However, he does give women a lot of advice in how to live balanced lifestyles.

To those people out there who are in the online dating game. I FEEL for you. When I was dating, I would describe myself as a person who absolutely hates online dating. Even though I had met some great people (including my husband). I believe a lot of the time it was a cause of crazy making, disappointments, miscommunications, and superficiality.

When I was eight years old, I have a vivid memory of my younger brother and I standing next to a fence next to our local skating rink. There was a kid that used to hang around the rink standing in front of us, and we were discussing if any of us were going to heaven or hell. The innocent bystander, my brother was witnessing the conversation between the local kid and myself.

We live in a world where obsession is somehow equal to true love, or that it means the same thing. Have you ever wondered if it’s just obsession or true love? I have found that this is one of the single biggest reasons we have so much trouble in dating and relationships. We have been SO conditioned since we were young children. The conditioning looks like this: if you can’t get that person off your mind, if you are yearning, if you are wondering, if you are questioning, if yo

I was pleased to find a specific recording and it reminded me of how praying helped my love life in a profound way. When I was 25 years’ old and was in my last year of university I would go for a lot of walks. I would get tons of inspiration on these walks and I would often take out my phone and hit record. I was at a place in my life where I had a lot of visions that would spin around in my mind. Little did I know that only God’s vision is what mattered.

Do you think you know your partner, girlfriend or boyfriend very well and ready for marriage? Or do you believe you may benefit from an easy pre-marriage personality checklist? If you are recently engaged, or if you just want to know your person (or the person you think is your person) a little better – you may gain value from doing this exercise. I also would like to share why you may be surprised with your results.

Since I have become a married woman, I have started to have some fears around having a baby. Personally, I don’t know how to think about childbearing. When discussing this with my own mother, she seems not to understand why I have such a fear. In her generation, having children was so normal, even second nature. It seems to me that the mainstream thought before was “okay, we are married now – let’s have children”, versus the thoughts today of, “should I even have children?” o

In recent years, I have simultaneously gained an appreciation and loathing for modern day politics. I started to notice patterns in different types of belief systems. This pattern I noticed is that whatever belief system you abide by – there is always some form of “censorship” involved.

Everyone has their own perspectives on what it means to find your purpose in life. To me the biggest game changer was not seeking my purpose. But rather, feeling the powerful ways to live a life “on purpose.” Tons of people these days are pondering “what IS my purpose?” in relation to their job search or life path. The famous navy seal David Goggin’s so brashly says, “So many people keep asking what their purpose is, but news-flash YOU ARE THE PURPOSE.” I love that.

Feeling trapped. Looking at the clock… Looking at the clock again…Wondering how people can actually do this for 20 plus years of their life. Then thinking, those people are the real heroes… I’m just the loser who can’t stick to one thing in my life. Thinking again – I’m a horrible person and someone else deserves this job more than me. But I can’t just quit my job – I’m an adult now with bills to pay.